Necessary Losses : the Loves Illusions Dependencies and Impossible Expectations That All of Us Have
"From grief and mourning to aging and relationships, poet and Redbook contributor Judith Viorst presents a thoughtful and researched study in this examination of love, loss, and letting go.Drawing on psychoanalysis, literature, and personal experience, Necessary Losses is a philosophy for understanding and accepting life's inevitabilities. In Necessary Losses, Judith Viorst turns her considerable talents to a serious and far-reaching subject: how we grow and change through the losses that are a certain and necessary part of life. She argues persuasively that through the loss of our mothers'protection, the loss of the impossible expectations we bring to relationships, the loss of our younger selves, and the loss of our loved ones through separation and death, we gain deeper perspective, true maturity, and fuller wisdom about life. She has written a book that is both life affirming and life changing." --provided by publisher
1 online resource (408 pages)
9781439134863, 1439134863
1085174679
Cover Page; Title Page; Copyright Page; Dedication; Acknknowledgemets; Contents; INTRODUCTION; PART I THE SEPARATE SELF; Chapter 1 The High Cost of Separation; Chapter 2 The Ultimate Connection; Chapter 3 Standing Alone; Chapter 4 The Private "I"; Chapter 5 Lessons in Love; PART II THE FORBIDDEN AND THE IMPOSSIBLE; Chapter 6 When Are You Taking That New Kid Back to the Hospital?; Chapter 7 Passionate Triangles; Chapter 8 Anatomy and Destiny; Chapter 9 Good as Guilt; Chapter 10 Childhood's End; PART III IMPERFECT CONNECTIONS; Chapter 11 Dreams and Realities Chapter 12 Convenience Friends and Historical Friends and Crossroads and Cross-Generational Friends and Friends Who Come When You Call at Two in the MorningChapter 13 Love and Hate in the Married State; Chapter 14 Saving the Children; Chapter 15 Family Feelings; PART IV LOVING, LOSING, LEAVING. LETTING GO; Chapter 16 Love and Mourning; Chapter 17 Shifting Images; Chapter 18 I Grow Old ... I Grow Old; Chapter 19 The ABC of Dying; Chapter 20 Reconnections; NOTES AND ELABORATIONS; BIBLIOGRAPHY; INDEX; About the Author